A blogger that I follow recommended Parenting the Wholehearted Child. It sat on my bookshelf for about a year before I started it. It has taken several vacation travel days to finish, but I did enjoy it.
The author, Jeannie Cunnion basically talks about a parenting shift. My goal is not to create an obedient child to make my life easier. Instead, my goal should be to parent Clarissa in a way that points her to Jesus. That the grace I give to her will help her to understand how much God loves her.
Some of my favorite thoughts and ideas from the book:
- The “where did you experience God’s presence today?” game P.73
- Life verses for each child p.89
- “Jesus loved me so much that He was more interested in the work He wanted to do in me and with me than He was concerned with giving me exactly what I thought I wanted at the very moment I thought I wanted it. ” p. 92
- Thankfulness is learned P. 161
- I really liked how she asks her kids “are you being a peacemaker or are you trying to get your brother in trouble?” p. 171
- Focus on what you want your child to start doing instead of what you want them to stop P. 222
She does a lot of correction by asking questions. What was your motivation for that behavior? What could you do instead? I think that also helps to get to know your child better. Sometimes when I ask Clarissa why she did something, her logic seems reasonable and I am able to guide her in making a better choice next time.