What is it like to be married to me?


I read Christin Slade’s blog. She is a homeschooling mom of seven. Two of her children were recently  adopted from Africa and it has been neat to watch that story unfold.

In December, Christin started a Facebook book club that I am very happy about. I like that I can read a book at my own pace but discuss it with other women.

What’s It Like to Be Married to Me?: And Other Dangerous Questions is our second book. I have to say that I really enjoyed it. The whole point of the book is to examine the way I respond to Tim. To look at my actions and motivations and seek Jesus in how I can be a better wife/lover.

I have to say that this book has helped my marriage. I started reading it right after we moved to South Korea. It has been eye opening to see how critical I can be. This book has really helped me to focus on encouraging and helping Tim. Our marriage is much stronger now.

I think Tim would agree that I have changed the way that I respond to him. Last week I wrote out Ephesians 4:29 on a sticky note and stuck it in a place that I would see multiple times per day to remind me to only say things that were helpful.


Tim asked if I was doing it for Clarissa because he thought I was doing a better job responding to him that way.

Some of my favorite takeaways from the book :

I can make a list of Tim’s faults. But then I need to go through the list and make a list of my own wrong responses to his “faults.” ouch.

I can’t see into Tim’s heart if I am trying to change him.

Let the Holy Spirit be Tim’s teacher. I need to be his cheerleader.

I read the book straight through on my phone. After I finished reading the last chapter, there was a section to go through and do either a ten or twelve week bible study with the book. I think that I may try reading it again that way over the summer.

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